IF YOU'RE A STUDENT ON THE BIG ISLAND OF HAWAII AND CONCERNED YOU MIGHT BE FACING AN UNPLANNED PREGNANCY, QUESTIONS ARE LIKELY SWIRLING AROUND IN YOUR MIND.
- WILL I BE ABLE TO CONTINUE MY EDUCATION?
YES! There are programs on the Big Island of Hawaii for teen mothers and fathers just like you and many of them are provided at little or no cost to you.
- CAN I STILL ACHIEVE THE GOALS I'VE SET FOR MY FUTURE?
YES! You can absolutely still achieve the goals you've set for your future, and your child will be a part of that blessing. Will it be easy? NO! Is it impossible? NO! Can you do it? YES, BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
- HOW DO I TELL MY PARENTS?
Share the news
Revealing your unplanned pregnancy to those closest to you can be difficult. But it's important to let them know so you won't have to deal with everything alone. Family members and friends may react in different ways, but open and honest communication is vital. Those who have been through a similar situation can often provide valuable support. So make a list of people you need to tell about your pregnancy.
Timing is Important
When is the best time to break the news? How will you tell them - in person? In a handwritten note? Will you go alone or take someone with you? Where will you tell them - at the kitchen table? In your living room? At someone else's home? Think through the details in advance. Plan to tell your family when everyone has time to sit down and talk without interruption. If possible, avoid starting the discussion late at night or early in the morning when everyone is leaving for work or school. It may take some time for your family to process this news.
Prepare yourself for their reactions
You may think you know how your family will respond, but you also might be surprised. It probably took you some time for the reality to sink in, so give them time, too. If they react with judgmental or condemning words, remind them that this is a difficult time for you and you need their support. If they try to pressure you into making a quick decision about parenting, adoption or abortion, ask them to give you time to carefully consider all your options.